What Can I Do if My Partner Wants an Abortion, but I Want to Keep the Baby?

What can I do if my partner wants an abortion, but I want to keep the baby?

Facing this question comes with many thoughts and emotions. It’s important to know that your feelings matter. While your partner ultimately makes the choice about how to move forward with her pregnancy, talking to your partner about how you feel is vital for maintaining transparency.

If you want your partner to keep the pregnancy, the following steps can help create an honest, productive space.

Tell Your Partner How You Feel

The following tips can help you share your feelings:

Choose the Right Time and Place

Find a calm, private setting where both of you can speak openly without interruptions. Timing matters; avoid starting the conversation when either of you are stressed or rushed.

Express Your Feelings Clearly

Be honest about how you feel. Use “I” statements to take ownership of your emotions, such as, “I feel excited about becoming a parent,” or, “I believe this is an opportunity for us to grow together.”

Acknowledge Her Feelings

Listen actively and without judgment to her perspective. Pregnancy affects her body and life in very personal ways, so demonstrate understanding and compassion for her thoughts and concerns.

Discuss the Future

Share your vision for how you would support her and the baby. Be prepared to discuss practical plans, like finances, parenting roles, and emotional support. Knowing that you’re there to support her may help her feel confident to choose a decision other than abortion.

Be Patient and Respectful

This decision requires time and mutual understanding. Let her know you’re willing to navigate this journey together, no matter what. This is especially important if you are hoping to have a future with your partner.

Help Your Partner Know Her Options

Your partner may feel like abortion is her only option. However, before she makes a decision, she can educate herself and learn about the physical and mental risks of abortion, as well as the other options that are available.

You can help by accompanying her to a free, confidential appointment at Liberty Women’s Clinic. We offer medically accurate information about abortion, parenting, and adoption, as well as a safe space to talk and ask questions.

You two aren’t in this alone. Encourage your partner to reach out today to schedule a free appointment.

*This information is intended for general educational purposes only and should not be relied upon as a substitute for professional counseling and/or medical advice. All abortion information sourced in this blog is based on accurate information at the time of writing.

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This information is intended for general educational purposes only and should not be relied upon as a substitute for professional counseling and/or medical advice.

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